The Positive Growth Doctor Podcast
Dr. Christina Wilson created The Positive Growth DoctorⓇ after years of dealing with societal expectations, self-doubt and perfectionism. She leverages 30 years of experience as a positive psychologist to address limiting beliefs and gain clarity to build confidence and navigate obstacles to achieve a healthier well-being.
The Positive Growth Doctor Podcast
Respectful Boundaries: Women Navigating Negativity with Grace
🌟 New Episode Alert! 🌟 Dive into a powerful discussion on how women can uphold their dignity and worth, even in the face of negativity. Discover strategies to set respectful boundaries and foster empowering relationships. 🎧✨
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Welcome to the The Positive Growth Doctor Podcast®! I am your host, Dr. Christina Wilson.
All research starts with a question that needs to be answered. There needs to be enough evidence to show there is a meaningful need to answer the question and learn more about the topic.
When I was choosing a topic for my dissertation years ago, I kept coming back to the same question. Why are adolescent females so mean to one another?
This one was harder to get past the IRB board to ensure safety of participants. So, I ended up choosing how locus of control and optimism play a role in subjective well-being.
It’s not like boys where they often physically fight it out and go right back to being friends. Oh no!
Girls are often sly and catty. They find ways to stick it to another so that they don’t see it coming. They can be bitter until the very end.
Many times, they mature and grow into adulthood. That isn’t always the case. Sometimes, they further develop their mean girl skills.
Sadly, with all that manipulation, the women on the receiving end tend to second guess themselves causing their confidence to take a hit.
I do want to note that mean girls have something within them or a need that was never met. They were hurt in some way. That doesn’t make it okay, but that is a whole other episode.
In this episode, explore the importance of setting boundaries with difficult people and surrounding yourself with positivity by growing your tribe that has your best interest in mind.
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Perfectionism
We live in a society that is divided by differing beliefs and opinions, especially in the last few years. This disrupts our peace if we let it.
Some people really struggle to hear a message from others when it is different from their own.
The art of listening and respecting that others have differing beliefs is getting more and more lost, which is sad.
This is hard because we were not meant to be alone in this life. We ARE better together.
That doesn’t mean you must become an extrovert and enjoy being in large groups of people every minute of the day.
It also doesn’t mean that you can be bullied by others just because of jealousy or a differing opinion.
But interacting with others is necessary in this life. Women often have past hurt from other women. When this happens in our inner circle, it is much more than voting for different candidates or differing beliefs.
It entails a much deeper hurt resulting from jealousy and our sinful nature as human beings.
Don’t get me wrong. We all have missteps because of our sinful nature. But I’m referring to people who consistently treat others poorly. It might even be the boss, who is a really bad leader.
Sadly, women end up isolating as a result. And when they are under bad leadership or have negative relationships with other women in general, they second guess their own value and adopt doubt and comparison.
This is harmful for women. God did not intend for us. In fact, going back to Genesis 1:27, women were created in the image of God with inherent worth and dignity.
Proverbs 31 says that women expound wisdom and strength.
Women have an important place in this world.
The Perfectionism
Setting boundaries with others is an important way to maintain you self-worth and dignity. So, what do you do when you are met with bullying and discouraging women?
- Boundaries must be clear. Be honest and direct so that your message isn’t lost. Use I statements because you statements infer blame. It’s more about your expectations than their boorish behavior. Example: "I feel uncomfortable when you speak to me in that tone."
- Stay calm. When you escalate, they escalate. This might mean that you compose yourself and then set the boundary.
- Be specific. Clearly outline your expectations. Example: "If this behavior continues, I will need to distance myself from our interactions."
- Being consistent is key.
- Be solution focused. Encourage a constructive conversation.
- Seek support if needed. You don’t have to be alone in this.
- Prioritize your own mental health when needed. This means that you might have to limit your exposure to this person.
Let's meet up again next week for another episode.
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